Quest or Grapevine?!?
No. I really, really don't think people are forming long term relationships after an initial meeting on Quest phone chats.
Maybe dedicate yourself to not dating at all for a period of time in the new year. Get comfortable with being alone. You were in a relationship for 9 years and it sounds like maybe you're not quite ready to be back on "the scene". It's all part of the break-up cycle if you ask me. Rebound dating followed by a period of true single-ness, and eventually you'll be ready when the right person comes along.