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Originally Posted by Since1984
Maybe your first issue is referring to three dates as a "relationship". It seems to me that at 33 you should be able to differentiate between having fun, hanging out, dating and being in an actual relationship. I was blown away you had her birthday "on your calendar" and was planning to take her out that day too as if she would drop everything for someone she has only been out with 3 times.
Anyways
Take a step back from finding a relationship and figure out how to date and have fun first. You yourself said you have been out of the dating world for 9 years...find yourself before finding an actual woman to settle down with.
If it is true you are being pressured by your parents to find someone and settle down, tell them to fly a kite! I understand you may hay been raised in a different culture or background but why sacrifice who you are to end up settling for someone to make your parents happy?
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The birthday thing, I usually always put in my calendar because to me remembering a persons special day is very important. Even if I didnt take her out, I would have at least remembered to wish her a happy birthday. Most girls (or maybe just about all) Ive dated in the past and known would get pissed if you dont remember basic stuff like their birthday. So ever since, Ive always made it a habit of putting them into my calendar.
Im going to try to find some free or low cost classes around the city or hobby groups to join to meet new people. Will attend them with no intention what so ever meeting girls, but just to meet new people. Funny how things usually work, you more often than not will find someone compatible when you arent looking and least expect it.
I might try tinker, I will see. But all I know is, I am beyond done with online dating. eharmony, lavalife, POF, okcupid, Ive tried them all and its been nothing but a huge waste of time and money for me. Im just no longer a fan of the online dating scenario and general setup. I need to change things up and start meeting people more in person as opposed to online first. Ive even tried speed dating (the most recent being last month) and all 3 times were a huge waste of time and money. Interesting concept, was different (hence why I tried it), cause you never know until you try right? Id never do it again.
With Christmas coming up and me having a good length of time off work and the family away, I will have to make a plan on how im going to go about meeting new people during my time off. Right now that is my first goal to nail down and then go from there.
Im not getting any pressure at all from my parents or family.