Sorry, just from reading your replies I think you need to read my earlier post again. I'm telling you, I was in your shoes and I got the chance that you're looking for. Sure, she was genuinely interested in me and wanted to hang out for a bit longer than three dates and I got a few months of exclusive dating with her but it still didn't work out. I knew at the 2.5-3 month mark that this wasn't going to work cause she clearly just wasn't into it like I was. From that point, to the point where we officially called it off about a month later, I drove my self insane. It was awful. You do not want to put yourself through that. Constantly checking your phone to see if she sent you a text or something, going days without hearing a peep from her and then when she finally responds you justify it all to yourself and make excuses for her ignoring you... Trust me. It's a ####ing nightmare.
I know you think you can pull this off. I did too. But the reality is you fell hard for this girl and she gave you chance and just wasn't feeling it like you were. That is honestly the WORST foundation to build a relationship on.
Take a positive note in that you scored a few dates with a girl like that so she and girls like her are clearly in your league, you just weren't a good fit this time.
Next time stick to the rule of no relationship talk for at least a month of seeing each other. If you decide earlier that you do want a relationship with the next girl then start taking her on very cute dates that imply that you're a couple and if they feel anything close to what you feel they will go for it and it will expedite the whole process...
Or do what I did in my current relationship and stop a guy from hitting on her and claim her as "your girlfriend"... that will only go one of two ways. You will either be a "possessive ass" or "the sweetest knight in shining armour" ... may the odd forever be in your favor
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Originally Posted by polak
Yeah sorry man, I think I'm going to have to side with everyone and say that you came on too strong, too early.
It sucks but I was in a short relationship earlier this year in which I was more invested in then the girl and she kept it going for about 3 months and once we hit the 3 month mark I could tell that she wasn't getting over the "casually dating" hump and it drove me nuts. I have never acted like such a mess before in my life. Be thankful she's letting you down early and easily.
The upside of that is once you get over them a) It's a huge weight of your shoulders and b) Once you meet someone who is as interested in you as you are in them, you realize how much better that is. I'm in a new relationship right now where we're both crazy for each other and it's awesome. Can't believe I put myself through that last month of torture in that last relationship when it clearly wasn't going to work.
But even at the beginning of the relationship I am in now, I was pumping the brakes and keeping it casual for a bit just to feel it out before getting in too deep.
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