[ernie]

OP you may not come right out and say it but the way this thread reads to me is that you've already fallen hard for this girl. It's not reading as a guy who thinks there might be a little something here that if slowly nourished could blossom into something great. It happens but it seems clear that the girl does not share those same feelings nor does she think she ever will so it's time to move on OP.

To me there are four types of early relationships:

1) the undeniable, well to use the words from this thread, spark that both people feel. This spark may turn into something substantial or it may fizzle but you are going to see it through to whatever end.

2) one person immediately feels this person could be the one while the other person believes there could be something and sees how it develops. This ends one of two ways - (a) long term relationship or (b) some nice times but ultimately it's called off before things become that serious. This is where I think you wish you were OP.

3) both people feel there might be something and decide to see where it goes.

4) One person falls hard and the other knows there is nothing for them long term. There is no hope for this one OP and I think this is where you actually lie.

For full disclosure, my wife of 18 years (girlfriend/fiance/wife for 23) fell in category 2. I did the falling and I fell hard. Thankfully for me she saw enough in those early days to stick around and fall herself. I also don't think it's wrong of her to want to be a person who does the falling immediately....she is allowed to want that and it doesn't make her high maintenance are anything else. It makes her, well, her.

Or perhaps I've read too much into your posts.