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Originally Posted by wretched34
Wait.... so, you've gone on three dates, she's let you down easy, and you've now tried to explain to her that love can be found in different ways, and that it's premature for her to give up on you, and that you feel you can build an ever lasting relationship if she just gives you time, and you can live happily ever after.... Maybe that's the problem... Doesn't really seem like third date conversation material.
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No I didnt say any of that to her, those were just my thoughts.
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On a third date, I'm usually still talking about my awesome toe drags at rec hockey, and that time I broke bones doing something stupid (toe drags at rec hockey), while staring at her chest. Not begging for a chance to prove to her that she'll love me one day.
If you're one that believes patience can build love, maybe slow it down a little. Leave the ever lasting life together off the table for a few weeks.... Just have have fun, that tends to be where a "Spark" comes from, planning a future right out of the gate doesn't scream excitement and passion like a few beers and a roller coaster.
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A lot of our convo on the 3rd date was just goofy nutty stuff. For the most part, a lot of our convos were like this. I put a lot of emphasis on silly talk so that it puts her at ease and me making a girl laugh is very important to me as it allows me to show my off the wall sense of humour.
But I also took the convo to a deeper level with a lot of open ended questions cause I wanted to get to know her on a whole other level. All of our dates, or even times talking were goofy and no planning a future right out of the gate on any of them. Im not a fan of scripted dates with a set of generic questions. I choose to just go with the flow, be who you are and take things naturally.
I still do believe if we were to go on a 4th date and do one of the activites that I considered for the past ones, that spark would be different. But no can do anymore, there wont be a 4th date. Thats why I say that 3 dates is really not all that much to get to know someone.