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Originally Posted by Julio
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Its a pretty good take on it.
This is a really weird situation, and he's right, what happens behind closed doors is what happens behind closed doors, however if you open the door to give people a peek, especially if you are a celebrity you will get the blow back that you rightly or wrongly deserve.
We as a society need to make sure that men and woman who are victims or abuse or assault are unfraid to step forward to press charges etc, however my guy instinct tells me that in the case of celebrities or the rich and powerful there's a huge fear of getting destroyed once you make the accusation, or having society turn on the accuser because the accused is handsome or rich or dreamy or whatever.
Even with the advent of the bravery behind the keyboard stuff, its devestatingly tough for people to come out and accuse their "assaulter" because you will instantly be ridiculed or threatened by anonymous people behind keyboards.
For the longest time in court it was ok for lawyers to attach the victim for their past reputation or behaviors or dress or social interactions. "The old she's a s%%t defense". As much as you hope its changed in certain cases it hasn't because now its the "She's lying to get my money or because she's jilted defense".
Absolutely the above happens, I'm not denying it, but the quick flocking to condemn the victim is preventing people from coming forward in a legal sense.
As for the BDSM lifestyle, I don't get it, but people are allowed to do what they are allowed to do sexually. I don't see the thrill of whipping a girl, or punching her lights out or choking her. Just like I don't see the fun in being whipped or whatever. So its all really strange, but from what I can figure, this is a lifestyle based around not only domination, but about trust, that the person doing whatever isn't going to take it too far, or do things that your really uncomfortable with, so there is a strong requirement for consent, the consent to give a body over.
If this celebrity took it over the line, then it clearly is a crime if the girls didn't consent to what he was doing. But even with a pattern of this kind of behavior its still a he said she said. He'll win though because of his social status and his popularity.