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I know very little about BDSM, but I always thought that it's not about getting off to giving pain to someone, it's about getting off on seeing another person getting off to being in pain. Also, if you've ever bit, spanked, or pulled your partner's hair during sex, what exactly is it you think you're getting off to, and how is that any different? I have a number of female friends who've told me me they enjoy when their partners violently choke or strike them during sex. Others like being spit on and called awful things. It's not my cup of tea, and not something I really want to engage in, but these people aren't any more mentally unstable or scummy than anyone else I've met. In fact they're all pretty awesome people. Some pretty ####ty and sex-negative views being espoused in this thread.