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Originally Posted by ChickenPho
is anyone here in a very traditional family where the parents have a set age for their kids to get married by and another age set for their kids to have kids? I think its the dumbest, most pointless thing in the world. Just like how you must get your post secondary ed done by a certain age. If you are in your 30s and taking courses, youre in trouble.
For instance my aunts are very much like this. Their kids must get married and have kids in perfect order from the oldest to youngest, which is getting married by 27 and having their first kid within the first year or marriage. I dont know about you but thats a pretty steep challenge to have on your kids.
Then they must have a second kid within two years after having the first. If all this doesnt happen in perfect order, it means something is wrong so they force it on them. Talk about pressure. And this did all happen like how the parents wanted it to, weddings went from the oldest to the youngest and every couple had their first child within a year. Having no kids is not acceptable to them! You are having kids no matter if you are ready for it mentally and financially.
My cousins pretty much were forced by their parents to propose to their gfs at the time for the sake of getitng married, one proposed just 4 months after meeting. The other day my mother told me they just had a baby, i laughed because i know the parents pressured them. You must have a kid no matter what! No excuses! I think its so stupid.
The thing is, these very traditonal families and forcing a timeline for when and who gets married and has kids, this is so common today.
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Not here it isn't. Maybe other places. If someone can't stand up to their parents on something of this magnitude, their life is likely miserable.