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Originally Posted by Buff
Both. Only a small sampling of my friends who lived with their other half before marriage are still married. There once was a time when I wasn't opposed to it, but now I think it is a bad idea based on observations and my rediscovered religious beliefs.
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Thanks for the answer. I can't dispute your observations...it is what it is, and your friends seem to match up with the survey results. Of those who lived apart before marriage, were they abstinent too? Based on religious morals, or other grounds? Of those who lived together...for how long? Was it their only shacking-up, or had their been other failed ones previously?
I've seen a pair of religious 21-yr-olds get married quickly just because they were anxious to be able to have sex. Frankly, if they respect the church's rules enough to abstain before marriage, then they probably respect the rules enough that they'll try to avoid divorce a little more fervently than a non-religious couple. In that respect, perhaps they're less likely to get divorced. Will they be happy in their long marriage? Maybe. Personally, though, I wouldn't want to be making a lifelong commitment partially on the basis of raging hormones. I'd rather commit (and will, next year) on the basis of "I love my life with you, and I want to continue it forever."
To each his own.