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Originally Posted by pylon
Again, the issue goes WAY deeper than the fact she snooped you.
The issue is she doesn't trust you. Now:
A) You either gave her a reason not to trust you.
B) You are with someone with a severe problem, that will only get worse.
The absolute biggest no-no for me in any relationship is suspicion and jealousy. And I have been in some screwed up relationships where I have over looked some MAJOR flaws.
If you caught your significant other snooping your emails, and phone, I can guarantee you, you have also been followed by them without your knowledge.
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Well, I presumed this was done due to curiosity at the beginning of the relationship. I'm quite certain she hasn't done so in several years now. If I caught her
secretly snooping now? Yeah, that's an argument there.
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Originally Posted by corporatejay
This has never even occurred to me. I mean, she knows my pws so she could theoretically do it but it simply never even crossed my mind that she would.
To the dude who said "we reserve the right", is this a conversation you've actually had or is it implied?
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This was a full conversation. Not implied. Essentially handed her my passwords and said, "You can snoop and check if you want. Prefer you didn't." 2 months (ish) later, she did the same voluntarily without me asking for the access. I never memorized the password. To this day, I still have to ask her for the password if she asks me to check something for her.
I mean technically she asked once if she could read messages, I said yes, she did it a few times without asking again and I argumentatively said I felt better if she asked each time (which she did). I probably misframed this a little bit. This wasn't a "No big deal, here you go full access." this was a process which involved discussing topics that many others are not comfortable in discussing in or dabbling in with individuals they have known for only a few months.
This could have backfired horribly. I know. I'm glad I chose the right person. Also a reason she's my fiance now.