My first thought is: what about the stat I hear that 50% of marriages end up in divorce? Are the 10% who get married more than once having like 4-5 divorces each?
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Originally Posted by Bend it like Bourgeois
Marriage is not something you're 'stuck-in' but something you choose to stick with.
I think living together is some people's way of saying they're not prepared to make that choice until they see if it's too hard. I'm not sure that works for most.
In fairness, 'I do' is probably barely a better indication of commitment. But it's the commitment that matters, not the adjustment.
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I completely agree with this... something I learned very early on is that marriage is work (I'm sure most people would agree). However, it should be work that's worth doing (something that you're willing to stick with), not work that drives you insane (although once in awhile is understandable)
To the people think they HAVE to live together before you are willing to get married: I can understand why someone would think that, but IMO (and based on my own singular experience), stuff like leaving the toilet seat up, toothpaste on the counter, clothes on the floor, etc. are not reasons to get divorced/not get married in the first place. If things like that are a problem in the relationship and the reason why you don't 'mesh', then you have no business getting married. I've only been married for a few years, but if you're in a good relationship, stupid little things like that shouldn't matter anymore. Things like financial planning and other money matters... those are the real marriage/relationship killers, but they can and should be talked about beforehand (regardless of whether you're living together or not)... just my $0.02.
I won't touch the religion thing... let's just say there are good and bad regardless of what you do on Sunday (or Friday, or whatever).