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Originally Posted by SebC
The problem I have with these type of stories is they treat propositioning someone as an assault - and it isn't. There is no right to not be hit on. This guy is asking for consent (albeit ineffectively) and being vilified for it.
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Originally Posted by SebC
This is about making the points that this kind of vilification is counter-productive to building a culture of consent, and that "need consent to get consent" creates an infinite loop where nobody gets laid.
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Unwanted propositions are equivalent to a verbal assault. Period.
There is a right "not to be hit on" - it's known as "quiet enjoyment" among other types of terms.
There is no right to get laid.
Let's reverse the situation. I'm going to assume, SebC that you are a straight guy. You are in West Van and some dude hits on you because he "likes your lips". Do you like that?
Let's now assume that this happens more often than you care to remember, or put up with, maybe several times a day. Every day. Every week. Every month. Just because you're a guy living in a gay area of Van.
Rather like a woman living in a sea of men. Get it?
Yes, there is a way to "get laid". It's with dignity and respect, not cheesy lines and sleazy innuendo. And when done properly, it's not a verbal assault or sexual harassment.