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Originally Posted by rubecube
I think you're using the wrong example. The female equivalent of that is the chick that does her hair and cakes on a tonne of make-up so she can leisurely use the recumbent bike for half an hour. I think Lulus and tight-fitting top is pretty standard for most women, or at least most women at the gyms I go to.
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So is it different if someone stares or leers at the girl on the recumbant bike?
I'm having a tough time with this thread. I think most on here would attest that I am a very open minded person that is all for equality across all genders, sexuality, races, etc. But there are some double standards at play here that are bordering on ridiculous.
Oilstain mentions the "bro" with perfectly fine reasoning but is called "gross" for apparently being able to see into the minds of women, which is really what almost all of us are doing here (trying to figure out what women's reasons are) and what any woman is doing when she assumes that any guy that happens to look at her is at the very least interested in her sexually, and at the very worst, will try to rape her in the parking lot later.
Arguing about the difference between a look and a stare? Come on. If you plug either of those into a thesaurus, the other is right there. When does a glance become a look, a stare, a leer, or a predetermined rape-face? Is it a time thing or an intent thing? And now we're back to seeing into each others minds. What if a guy is daydreaming and a woman happens to be in his line of sight? Guessing at people's intentions is completely futile.
I know someone from any one of: The bro, the fat person, the girl there dressing "attractively" to work out, the girl dolled up on the recumbant, the girl there in shorts and a tshirt, and the guy there in shorts and a tshirt. The only thing we know about all of them is that they are excersising. In a public place people will stare at you for a number of reasons, regardless of who you are or what you're doing. How is it any better or worse that a guy assumes a girl staring at him is interested or a girl assumes a guy staring at her is dangerous? They're all unfair stereotypes.
I know a guy who was pursued into a parking lot by a gay man who became interested after noticing his (very feminine) tattoo in the locker room. Is that man now legally entitled to ask that his gym be a gay-free zone? My guess is most (including myself) would say no.