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Originally Posted by Chill Cosby
As bcsoda said above, you're essentially saying the sexual assault was inevitable and they should have known that. THAT is victim blaming.
Take the content and the sexual assault aspect of it out, and you've got an invasion of privacy. The person got into their computer and took their pictures. That's wrong on every level. It's not the fault of the victim for having a computer, or uploading vacation pictures onto their computer is it? That'd be kind of crazy. But because their naked in the pictures instead of them being "boring" pictures, uh oh, suddenly it's their fault for having naked pictures of themselves.
These people are victims of a crime. Does the crime happen? Yeah. Does that make them responsible for being victims of the crime? No.
Even if you believe it to be true, it's a scummy thing to say isn't it? When someone gets raped, you shouldn't say "Well you were pretty much allowing it to happen," when someone gets cancer you shouldn't say, "Well you should've ate a little better," and when someone gets hit by a drunk driver you shouldn't say, "Well, you shouldn't have been driving that late." It's about supporting people and being a good human being, even if you don't know them or don't like them. Would you really be comfortable saying those things to anyone's face?
We take calculated risks every day. Each one of us. That's life, and that's what living is about. Whether you know it or not, you are taking constant risks every single day that could lead you be a victim of a crime, illness, death, or whatever. People may not always be able to say they didn't do everything they could to avoid falling victim to something, but that doesn't mean it's their fault, and it certainly doesn't give anyone the right to tell them how they should've lived or that they don't have a right to be shocked or upset when they become a victim.
I do agree that this shouldn't have any impact on their careers, and it likely won't because American society is (slowly) moving away from slut-shaming. Blaming them for being victims of a privacy invasion isn't much better than slut-shaming though.
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To you first point I would argue that if you are famous and you take a naked picture of yourself it will get out. This to me is a statement that passes no judgement it just is generally true.
If I upload family vacation pics to whatever site and they get stolen its likely my fault. I am responsible for securing my privacy.
I might just lack empathy but regardless of the situation when something bad happens my first thought is that really sucks for you. My second thought is why didnt you do this or this to prevent it and how would I prevent it from happening to myself. I think photons comment about wanting to be able to exert control over our existance is part of it. Heck half the reason I wear a life jacket is so that if I drown I am not blamed for being an idiot.
I see these types of situations as learning opportunities for everyone. So I quickly get by the that sucks it happened to you empathy stage and move quickly to the root cause analysis. I think the lesson here to be learned by everyone with a dick pic of themselves on their phone is that its not safe and will eventually get out. Not that it would be that sought after, And if your not comfortable with that risk delete it everywhere.
I do agree that we shouldnt tell anyone how they should have lived their lives or judge them negatively because of it.