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Originally Posted by ChickenPho
Okay they cant, but its not worth burning bridges by not going. If I said "Im absolutely not going, no ands, ifs or buts" and I wasnt willing to change my decision? I gaurentee you that I just burnt the bridge between my boss and I.
Yes I can do this and I did in Julys event, and got blasted with 29 questions on why not and some head scratching going on from other departments. I even had one person spend 10mins on the phone with me saying how i should go. Want my opinion? No one should ever be asked why they cant make an event cause quite frankly its none of their business. If they cant go, they cant go, end of story. When people tell me they cant make my invites, I dont go asking "why not" because its none of my business.
Exactly! But unfortunately not everyone sees it this way. Once they start asking me questions, I get irritated.
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It's natural for people to be inquisitive. Are you just overreacting at the line of questioning that comes after you decline an event?
If it comes up and you're not sure you can make it, say you'll get back to them. If you're sure you don't want to, say "Sorry, that's not my thing." If others ask why you aren't going, you can say "It's not my thing." If they say, "Well you should go for the people." You can simply say "I know, but there will be other events, so I'm not too concerned."
It's simple. Be honest. The way you're acting now is dishonest and less than respectable, and if your prime concern is worrying about burning bridges with your boss and your co-workers, being dishonest and short with them is going to do it much faster than declining an invitation.
Just be honest. If honesty in these scenarios burns bridges or affects your job, then either you're not right for the job, or the job isn't right for you. Based on the way you describe your relationship with your boss and how the two of you interact in these scenarios, I'd guess there is a larger problem at hand.