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Originally Posted by habernac
pre-wife and kids, I went out to most of these things. Now I'm a husband, Dad, a coach, etc. Those things are much more important to me than some after work function. I spend enough time with the people I work with. After work is family time for me.
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This for sure is a valid post, however I don't believe it applies to the OP.
The key for the OP next time is to give the boss a valid reason for not attending, because there is value in team building. "I don't feel like going" is going to be less acceptable than "Large social gatherings give me a lot of anxiety boss, would it be alright if I declined the invite"
If the boss knows you have some social issues then you would think he is going to be more accomodating. Maybe he won't be happy that you aren't going, but at least he will know that you aren't just being an anti-social team member. Lying/making excuses is not the way to go, just tell the truth.