Your reputation isn't ruined, my advice would be to try and make an actual connection with this guy. Control your emotions, whether you are in the wrong or he is just a grade A doosh is irrelevant, you have to build a relationship or he'll use you as a lapdog and you'll never get anywhere because it's only natural if there is tension there and no real trust between the two of you.
If I were you I would go to the golf event and make your best effort to have a great time and let your boss know you are a positive to have around at social events. The real issue is saying you would go to something and then backing out, that's a bad precedent to set even if for a legitimate reason. Pretty much every boss and business situation I've been in the boss appreciates reliability as one of the premier traits of a good employee and have gotten raises and promotions over others because I didn't hum and haw about saying yes and showed up when I said I would.
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