Really sorry to hear this - no one should have to go through this. I went through something similar with my first wife - 9 years of marriage then she wanted out, hit me like a ton of bricks. We separated for 6 months, reconciled for a while but then were both ready to call it quits. Same as you we had no kids, which is a huge silver lining at least.
I hired a lawyer but he was a real prick and wanted to take her to the cleaners, rubbing his hands about her government pension. I just wanted to be done with it so fired him and we ended up sharing the same lawyer. Not sure if that's the smartest move or not but it worked ok - we didn't have many assets to fight over and were generally amicable.
I started dating someone a month after - boy was that a mistake and we called it off pretty quickly. A year later we picked it up again and married a couple of years later. So give yourself a year minimum just to be with yourself, even then it does take longer to fully get over it.
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