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zztim81 · 08-21-2014, 01:46 PM

Hey Guys,

I hate to bump an old thread, but after 6.5 years of marriage and nearly 12 years together Mrs. Decided to pack up and walk out on me.I wouldn’t wish these feelings on my worst enemy, and I feel for everyone in this thread I am sure can relate to the frustrations and concerns and uncertainty that the other guys like Kunkstyle and CrazyCaper have felt. All I can say is thank god I didn’t have any kids to be pulled into the middle of my mess…

It’s been 6 months now since she left, and there is no chance of reconciliation, she says she doesn’t love me anymore, our place is holding her back, and she doesn’t want kids and never will (something that I do want eventually but have been in no rush to have).So far… touch wood… she has been very amicable regarding assets and our place etc. and both of us are interested in avoiding lawyer bills or court cases In order to split the sheets so to speak. And I just want to be fair, I know it takes two and I cant blame her for everything or be vindictive.

There has been some discussion on here about no fault divorces and doing things like writing a separation agreement yourself instead of getting a lawyer, and also this 400$ option for assistance in filling out the necessary documents. Has anyone ever done these themselves? And where do you start to find out about these options? I have already talked to the bank and I think I can assume our mortgage and make it work with one income but it’s going to be tight when you consider a payout for her share of the property and assets equity. One thing I gleaned from this thread is try and make my arrangements faster and sooner than later while there might be some guilt in her still for not trying to work it out, as it seems the longer it takes the more she is going to feel entitled to and the more it’s going to cost me financially and emotionally.

Any advice is much appreciated!

08-21-2014, 01:46 PM	#256
zztim81 Scoring Winger Join Date: Jul 2006 Exp:	Hey Guys, I hate to bump an old thread, but after 6.5 years of marriage and nearly 12 years together Mrs. Decided to pack up and walk out on me.I wouldn’t wish these feelings on my worst enemy, and I feel for everyone in this thread I am sure can relate to the frustrations and concerns and uncertainty that the other guys like Kunkstyle and CrazyCaper have felt. All I can say is thank god I didn’t have any kids to be pulled into the middle of my mess… It’s been 6 months now since she left, and there is no chance of reconciliation, she says she doesn’t love me anymore, our place is holding her back, and she doesn’t want kids and never will (something that I do want eventually but have been in no rush to have).So far… touch wood… she has been very amicable regarding assets and our place etc. and both of us are interested in avoiding lawyer bills or court cases In order to split the sheets so to speak. And I just want to be fair, I know it takes two and I cant blame her for everything or be vindictive. There has been some discussion on here about no fault divorces and doing things like writing a separation agreement yourself instead of getting a lawyer, and also this 400$ option for assistance in filling out the necessary documents. Has anyone ever done these themselves? And where do you start to find out about these options? I have already talked to the bank and I think I can assume our mortgage and make it work with one income but it’s going to be tight when you consider a payout for her share of the property and assets equity. One thing I gleaned from this thread is try and make my arrangements faster and sooner than later while there might be some guilt in her still for not trying to work it out, as it seems the longer it takes the more she is going to feel entitled to and the more it’s going to cost me financially and emotionally. Any advice is much appreciated!