squiggs96 mirrors my personal situation perfectly. My wife and I have been blissfully married for almost eight years. We're also childfree by choice, and we've never once had a fight during the time we've been married (I'm sure that's not typical of most couples, though). She makes slightly more money than I do, and I don't at all feel ashamed or emasculated by that. In fact, it's only fair and proper that she be compensated accordingly because she has three university degrees (two bachelor's, one master's) whereas I only have one.
I also disagree strongly with some of the posters in this thread who claimed that marriage means loss of freedom and financial self-determination. That certainly hasn't been the case with us. We maintain a household budget and figure out which expenses should be considered "joint responsibility" (e.g. mortgage payments, utility bills, groceries, vacations, dinners out together, etc.). We each pay 50% of the cost of those. Any money we individually have left over after all joint household expenses are paid is ours to spend however we see fit. If I want to buy a new game console or build a new PC or buy a new guitar, BAM - done. I don't need to ask her permission to spend my money. Likewise, if she wants to spend her money on a new dress or an expensive pair of shoes or a day at the spa, she can go right ahead.
Purely looking at it from a financial perspective, we're both significantly better off than we would be if we were single. When you also add the fact that we're each other's best friend and love spending our time together, marriage has proven to have been a great decision for us.
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