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Originally Posted by flylock shox
So, if the passion is going to inevitably die anyway, if you are going to get married, should you be looking for qualities that are more pragmatic in nature? Should you marry someone who is your best friend rather than your best lover?
Arranged marriages supposedly fail less often. Is that just because of cultural reasons, or are there pragmatic considerations such as family harmony that make them successful? I'd hate to be in a passionate relationship with a woman whose family I hated.
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That's how I see it.
The idea that you're marrying your soul mate, true love etc is complete fairy tale BS.
I think a lot of marriages fail because people go into them like that, and can't handle the first time they go through a phase of pretty much hating their partner or losing attraction to them.
A more pragmatic approach is that you've found someone you love and think you can build a life with. Someone who is on the same page with the fundamentals like life goals, lifestyle, family values, beliefs, children etc.
It doesn't sound romantic, but I see getting married like starting a business partnership. Get the right partner you can build an overall successful endeavour with despite that fact that you will go through many ups and downs together.
It's about creating something bigger than yourself and involves a lot of sacrifice.