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Originally Posted by flylock shox
Borrowing from prime333's related thread, it appears that marriage isn't for everybody - a position that Statscan tends to support, since the number of people who never marry is increasing, and 40% of Canadians who do marry end up getting divorced.
And divorce sucks.
So, marriage: is it a good idea?
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It depends on each indivdual and their reasons for getting married in the first place.
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What are the pros and cons? Is it better to stay single forever?
If you do get married, what are the most important things to make it work?
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Commitment. Many people today view it as just a thing to do and not a lifelong commitment. If you're willing to throw it away at any bump in the road, why are you there?
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What are the things that are most likely to make it fail? Is it really always women's fault?
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Infidelity for sure, but more than that, a willingness to settle. If you're going into a marriage 'just because', you're doing it wrong. If you think to yourself your partner is 'good enough' so why not, that's a recipie for disaster. What's that saying about finding someone you can't live without, instead of someone you can live with?
Certainly, women are famous for 'trapping' men with children, but honestly, it takes two to make a baby and two to make the decision to marry for the sake of the children instead of love. So many people put their kids first but the foundation of any family starts with the parents and if their focus isn't on their relationship, it will fall apart.
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Where is the institution of marriage heading and what kind of relationships are going to replace it in the future?
How about that polygamy thing? Polyandry? Polyamory?
What's the best way to go?
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Everyone is different. Marriage isn't for everyone.
After hitting the wall myself, I was forced to accept that I would probably never marry and probably never have kids as I did not want to raise children alone. I was okay with that and got myself a dog. I dated and had fun but when I met my husband and we connected like we had known each other forever, we both decided that we wanted a family together and the first step was going to be marriage. That's our choice. It isn't for everyone though.