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Originally Posted by pylon
You are very lucky to be so happy. If I could guarantee I could have the same, I would jump in. But there is no guarantees. I have had a couple devastating break ups from a couple long term (5yr+) relationships. Like the worst possible scenarios you could ever imagine types. One took me a couple years to comes to grips with. Once that happens, you grow a little leery. You don't want to experience those feelings again. But it numbs you, and eventually makes the short term break ups seem very insignificant.
My fear is I won't be as lucky as a guy like you. I have a history that dictates I won't, so I try not to get too attached. Now I tend to grow tired of women after about 6 months. I just can't stay focused it seems, and my big fear isn't their lack of commitment, it would more be my fear of being able to commit long term.
I know there is a lot of underlying issues that make me feel and act the way I do now. But most importantly, I am happy as long as I stay at arms length.
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Sorry Pylon, I wasn't taking a shot at you, apologize if it came across that way. Was trying to point out, perhaps poorly, that both are possible. Takes a lot of work no doubt and there are times I wish I was in my mid 20's single and living large but at the end of the day do what makes you happy.
I appreciate your honesty and understand where you are coming from. Make no mistake I know how lucky I have been. Hell, I'll buy ya beer when I'm in town next week so I can remember what's it like to be relatively care free.
In all honesty I only got married to have kids. Somebody needs to change my adult diaper and pay for my Shady Pines Home living.