I actually subscribe to a similar mentality.
I have seen too many men get jerked around in divorces, couples living utterly miserable lives just to keep some sort of family unit image, couples leveraging children as pawns in divorce and I have had a couple pretty brutal experiences with women myself. One that cost me close to $50k for being a 'nice guy'.
I don't dislike women though, I love them. I don't have a misogynistic bone in my body. But I only let women get as close as casual dating, and I date a lot. That is how I plan to live my life for the foreseeable future. I will not let anyone, man or woman, dictate anything I do anymore, and will make zero compromises. Take me as I am, or don't bother at all, and I forward the same courtesy to anyone I am dating. Don't make a single compromise for me either. And that is made clear right from the start. And I have never been happier.
Wake up and want a new motorcycle? Done by noon.
Want to smoke a giant fat cigar in your living room? Light it up.
Want to go camping with your buddies at the last minute? I'll bring the beer.
Thinking of booking a trip to Vegas for no other reason than 'something to do'? I'm leaving tomorrow.
In my late 20's and early 30's, friends would give me these weird sympathetic speeches about how "One day you will find the right girl." Now I am approaching 40, most of them would do anything to escape their burnt out, sexless marriages, and mountains of brutal debt trying to be the ultimate provider. Meanwhile, I am sitting in an all but paid off bachelor pad, and have all the time in the world to pursue all my hobbies, or just chill out and do nothing at all if I please.
It ain't that bad at all, and I believe it will start becoming a very common trend.
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