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Originally Posted by Chill Cosby

And you've proved my point exactly. If "why would anyone park in the middle of nowhere" isn't a valid question, then neither is "what possible reason is there for parking next to a lone car."

That's what I said, either neither are valid or both are valid.

Originally Posted by Chill Cosby

There are plenty of reasons, a couple I noted above.

But your example wouldn't apply to the picture I posted. If you are looping looking for a spot you're not looping up and down empty isles. Or if you're looking for a windbreak, a single car isn't as good as a bunch of cars. But the windbreak one does make some sense, so on -40 windchill days that might mitigate the eyeroll to someone parking next to my red arrow parking spot.

Originally Posted by Chill Cosby

I can personally say, and I'm sure I speak for most others, that if you find my car next to yours, any sort of malicious, antagonistic, or disrespectful intent didn't even factor in.

There's tons of people out there who would do it, just like there's people on this forum who's intent is antagonistic and malicious for their own entertainment. I think jerk is far higher on the probability list than windbreak. You have to admit that jerk is going to constitute a percentage of the incidents if we could measure them all, be it 1%, 25% or 75%.

Originally Posted by Chill Cosby

No, they're probably just had some reason for parking there. I don't seek to mystify their cause. I just accept that they parked there.

I think you're being a bit disingenuous because while you might not put the same value to the appearance of your car as others, or the same value to money to repair your car as others, you DO understand the principle because you have something in your life that you value, and abstraction and perspective taking are human skills so abstracting the value you place on whatever it is you value and being able to see someone else's perspective about what they value even if it's a different thing being valued is something you are capable of.

Originally Posted by Chill Cosby

Why are you having trouble accepting the same? You should understand, as someone who really cares about your car or your version of what constitutes your own personal space, that those that park next to you are not, in fact, antagonists, miscreants, low skill demonizers of the unwritten rule and all that is wrong with the world, but rather just someone who parked there for a reason you obviously don't relate to.

Well first your attributing a lot of things to me that I haven't claimed or expressed... overstating what I've said doesn't undermine it.

But I'm not having trouble accepting anything, I'm trying to find out what it is that I'm supposed to be accepting, the reason I am to relate to. I'm willing to accept reasonable things. So far windbreak is the only reasonable one I've seen, and that's tenuous since many rows of proximity to the entrance would far outweigh the benefit of a car-length windbreak.

Originally Posted by Chill Cosby

I'll never understand why you'd be mad

Where did I say I'd be mad??

Originally Posted by Chill Cosby

You'll never understand why I parked beside you, because you don't park beside others because of a very specific set of reasons.

I'll never understand your reasons because I had reasons? That doesn't follow. Every action has reasons, even if they aren't conscious.

My entire point is trying to understand why, and now you're telling me I'll never understand why? That's nonsense, even if I wouldn't agree I'm perfectly capable of understanding a explanation. Or if there is no reason, well people who act with no reason at all are usually classified as insane. There's always a reason.

Originally Posted by Chill Cosby

Perhaps the obsession is more about understanding why someone would do something, and being frustrated when the reason is not one you relate to.

No, and telling someone what they feel or think is confrontational, it doesn't facilitate communication.

As I've already said, I don't care if I relate to a reason, as long as there is a reason and it actually is reasonable (which is kind of a requirement for it being a reason, reason being part of the word reasonable).