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Originally Posted by PsYcNeT
I dunno, in my experience, if someone is having sex with you because you want it and they are legitimately not in the mood, but love you enough to #### you anyway, it ends up being pretty mediocre sex.
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Maybe, but it can also bring the other person around, or work to establish a longer pattern of deeper intimacy. Like MattyC said sex in such a relationship is very important, and without it the relationship will suffer. Setting times to have sex even if both aren't horny as hell can be important; rather than waiting until one feels in the mood, being intimate can help the mood come more easily down the road. EDIT: In a long term relationship not every encounter is going to be mind blowing sex.
Of course it can be a lot more complex than that, which is why a good marriage counsellor can help. That he kept the spreadsheet isn't all that bad (he's clearly frustrated), sending to her is pretty bad, her posting it to reddit is as bad if not worse.
Ultimately we don't know enough to judge, why is she not interested? Maybe she's changed mentally or physically and feels unattractive and just needs a bit more effort to feel like she's attractive to him. Maybe she's being unrealistic in her expectations, marriage after 15 years isn't like marriage after 2. Maybe it's physiological, things can change libido. Regardless, they clearly aren't going to understand the why by not communicating.