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Originally Posted by MissKat
No you are right and I completely agree with you. Its just the matter of convincing my parents that I need to branch out on my own and stop being under their wings.
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What convincing? You say "Mom and Dad, I'm moving out." And then you do. If you're over the age of 18 then you can move out because you're an adult.
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Originally Posted by MissKat
But it goes way beyond that. You see, Im the baby of the family so my parents tend to spoil me and always have since I was a kid. They never disciplined me, on how to say no - in fact that all came from my sisters. My sisters never got their college tuition paid for, or their car, instead they had to work to pay off their loans.
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Okay, just because you were "babied" doesn't mean it's not time to grow up. You could go on for years "blaming" your parents for spoiling you but how much dignity and integrity are you willing to whitle away before standing up on your own two feet. I know that the prospect of being independent and caring for yourself is a daunting prospect for some people but you need to remember that not all learning will feel good in your gut. Sometimes you will be scared. It's okay to be scared. It's not okay to let that fear prevent you from ever trying.
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Since, Im the only daughter of the family left in the house, my parents are worried that they will lose me (connection wise) if I move out. Why that is, is still a puzzle to me, Ive never understood why.  |
This is one of the things that some parents do. It's a partial fear of empty nest syndrome. They'll get over it.
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Originally Posted by MissKat
What I would like to do, have always wanted to, is go to a third world country. That would definitely do the trick, as far as getting me to appreciating the little things more in life. I know this may be hard to believe, but I am actually a lot better than I was younger.
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You don't need to go to a third world country to appreciate what you have. If you want to see how things are on the other side of the tracks then go volunteer in a Soup Kitchen. This will help things hit close to home as the impoverished won't be on the other side of the world to serve as examples. They'll be right where you live.
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Originally Posted by MissKat
But its just that Im so inconsistent. I can go two months, without buying a single piece of clothing (which Ive actually gone 3 months now), but then all of a sudden get sucked into a big purchase and then my account balance just starts lowering from there lol.  |
Discipline is hard but if you're going to develop any sense of responsibility then you have to work at it.
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Originally Posted by MissKat
I have a goal set for myself for today: DONT GO BUY THE XBOX LOL. IM LOCKING MYSELF UP FOR TODAY, OR UNTIL AT LEAST THE STORE IS CLOSED.
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Good first step.