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Originally Posted by Mike Oxlong
What happens if you want to buy tickets to a Flames game or go play a round of golf with your friends? Do you simply take it out of the joint account? Do you need permission or do you have the flexibility to make those decisions?
I wouldn't say I "need" things to make me happy. I want to make both of us happy but we don't always share the same interests. If I want to golf or go to a hockey game that isn't always something she wants to do, meanwhile she might want to go for drinks with her friends or spend money on something I have no interest in. If it makes her happy great. She should have the freedom to do those things as well.
Both sides of the argument have very valid points. We are just trying to figure out a system that works best.
And as for when we have a kid....obviously I am going to be the sole provider so I will make sure everyone is well provided for. I am not going to tell her she has no spending money because she has been at home for the last few months not working.
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If I want to go golfing I just go, or if I want to go to a flames game she has no problem with that, as I have no problems if she wants to go for dinner with her friends or a day a that spa or whatever. But we both know that buying those kind of items don't and shouldn't happen all the time. I mean I go golfing once a month and that is good enough for me. I didn't buy seasons tickets to the Flames cause there is no way I can make even half the games, but I make it to atleast one a month.
I guess it all depends on the type of person that you are getting married to. But if you were to marry a free spender that ends up spending both of your earnings why not go on a budget? Put all earnings together into one account, pay for all the bills, save a certain percent and put the rest into seperate spending accounts, that way she can spend all her money on shoes and manicures and you can save up to buy seasons tickets etc.
Sorry missed the part about having kids^^
PS I have found that my wife doesn't care what I spend the money on and I don't have to ask her, but I do still need persmission to go out and do it, lol!!