Quote:
Originally Posted by SebC
Yet you also said this.
So it was right for you, but you wouldn't recommend it?
|
Let's say I was growing up in an abusive home. At 16 I run away, scrounge around for a job, eek out a decent life for myself. But never ever want to go back to that home. Too much trauma and heartache there.
Do I propose that the solution for all abused children is to run away from home? Or do I suggest that we look at a better way to reduce the suffering rather than my successful longshot? Change the goalposts.. The goal should not be to escape the abusive home but rather to stop the abuse.
The hell that was my late twenties and early thirties when I was battling depression, self loathing, and continued self destructive behaviours have left scars too deep to ever heal. I am NEVER going back there. Somehow, someway, I was able to get the weight off, and by the grace of the Flying Spaghetti Monster, I have been able to keep it off thus far. But I think the best solution isn't to get people to try to take the same longshot, but rather to help people be the healthiest people they can be, both physically and mentally, no matter what their size. It's far more likely to be successful and is the compassionate thing to do.