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Originally Posted by kn
The last thing I want is to be considered a creep who is being sexually harassing. And considering I'm not a GQ model, I suspect nothing I could venture saying would prevent that. I'm sure the automatic thought is "Great, another loser trying to get into my pants." Considering I've never seen you before, have never heard you speak, and know nothing about you, there is little to go on other than appearance and the current context of the situation.
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If you show up with an attitude of, "I'm sorry I'm wasting your time." Due to self fulfilling prophecy, you are indeed wasting the other person's time. You have to work hard to break that cycle. I personally think that it's legitimate to say something like, "Hi, I've been trying to practice my conversation skills and I was wondering if you would chat with me". Sound awkward? Maybe. But IMO less awkward than, "Heeeey! what's up with the crowds eh? You come here often?" It's fine she says no.
Slightly off topic but still on topic...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rejection_Therapy
http://rejectiontherapy.com/fear-hac...3-second-rule/
No one on earth is a waste of space. Just because you're not a GQ model doesn't mean you can't chat with a girl. Guess what? The girl isn't an SI model either. But doesn't mean she's not cute or pretty. Even if she is cute or pretty doesn't mean much either. Maybe you want to get into her pants, maybe you don't. Either way, it doesn't hurt to just get to know her. Worried about chatting with girls? Start by chatting with guys first then. Conversations are gender neutral and you might have to convince yourself of that first.
Always throw the ball back in her court, if she asks why you're not talking that much, saying you're shy and like listening more is valid. But obviously you can't get away without sharing about yourself, it's creepy. I found when I first stared coming out of my shell, many girls were willing to be patient if I let them know beforehand I wasn't good at conversation but was willing to learn. If you don't say anything, you're being weird for no reason and no one likes that, guy or girl.
Good luck good sir. Conversations are rewarding.