One thing that irks me is the apologetic guy who runs around apologizing for the behavior of all men and frustrated about their dating situation.
Dude, you just got rid of a guy a girl may or may not have been bothered by and then excused yourself out of the picture. Not only did you cockblock someone, you cockblocked yourself. Sometimes, girls just want to chat. Not go further. But like politics, they don't want to talk about the history of the glass ceiling for women.
For instance, jumping into discussions of how heels are restrictive for women and intended to enslave them and make them easier to catch is just creepy at a club. Unless you somehow pull it off as a joke (rare). No one also gives a crap that heels were originally meant for horseback riding, and even if the girl seems interested, I perceive she actually didn't listen to a damn word you said and is *maybe* trying to give you a chance to pick her up or redeem yourself. Telling her that the heels look great and wondering how comfortable they are is a better conversation.
Even if you truly believe the social system is unfair/unjust/problematic, it's not a great conversation starter, pick up line or an icebreaker. It's like talking to a person set on proclaiming dogmatic principles for conversion. No thanks, I'll excuse myself from the conversation. I think (if I recall conversations with female friends) that this attitude of putting a girl on a pedestal can come off as a red flag even if it doesn't start out creepy.
Beyond that, any normal conversation can be accepted or rejected by any girl/woman. Context further makes this a dice roll. I'm sure chatting about shopping/brands/products is fun for some girls, boring for others and creepy to yet even more. As others have said, stick to your guns and accept rejection gracefully.
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