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Originally Posted by Dion
My first cold approach happened in grade 10. There was this cute red head that always sat behind me in math. One day I garnered up enough courage and said I really liked her and was wondering if she would go out on a date. Then for whatever reason she started to laugh. I was so embrassed and hurt by her reponse that I never did ask her why she laughed. It was only a week later that one of her friends came up to me and apologised saying her friend was cruel in the way she treated me. I was very shy and a bit of a geek back then and for whatever reason she thought it was funny that I would ask her out.
It really hurt because girls back then never seemed to take an interest in me. I would rehearse for days the words I would say to her and then only to get too scared to actually talk to her. When I finally overcame my fears and to be dropped like I was devistated me and my confidence. I never did regain my confidence while in HS and my grad date ended up being someone's sister who felt sorry I couldn't find a date.
Despite my joking in this thread, I haven't had much success with women and am still single. Some of it is because I had and still have high functioning Aspergers Syndrome which makes it difficult to read body language and understanding social cues. I will admit it's much better as I learned to read body language and social cues as I got older. That's not to say I haven't had any lady friends, just that I never got comfortable enough to ask someone to marry. Maybe it's because i'm too damned independant, I don't know and quite frankly it's not that big a deal anymore. I sometimes think it's nice to be able to go to a movie or out for dinner/lunch with a lady freind and not have to worry about what might happen next.
For sure it would be nice to find someone to share a life with but if it doesn't happen, it won't be the end of the world for me.
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I really appreciate this post Dion, thanks
In school I had a friend attempt suicide because something very similar happened. He suffered from a minor disability that made social interactions a lot more difficult for him, and also dealt with some pretty severe depression. I've also seen my sister deal with some truly awful guys lately, but she doesn't let it bother her
I hate seeing people have that little amount of respect for another person, it happens way too often. You may not be interested and you may be uncomfortable, but there's no reason to make the other person feel worthless
I actually got in a fight a couple years ago with they guy who was my closest friend at the time because of the way he did the same thing to a couple girls. I don't understand how people can sometimes be so disrespectful, but I guess a lot of the time we don't even realize what we say or do and how it could hurt someone else