My first cold approach happened in grade 10. There was this cute red head that always sat behind me in math. One day I garnered up enough courage and said I really liked her and was wondering if she would go out on a date. Then for whatever reason she started to laugh. I was so embrassed and hurt by her reponse that I never did ask her why she laughed. It was only a week later that one of her friends came up to me and apologised saying her friend was cruel in the way she treated me. I was very shy and a bit of a geek back then and for whatever reason she thought it was funny that I would ask her out.
It really hurt because girls back then never seemed to take an interest in me. I would rehearse for days the words I would say to her and then only to get too scared to actually talk to her. When I finally overcame my fears and to be dropped like I was devistated me and my confidence. I never did regain my confidence while in HS and my grad date ended up being someone's sister who felt sorry I couldn't find a date.
Despite my joking in this thread, I haven't had much success with women and am still single. Some of it is because I had and still have high functioning Aspergers Syndrome which makes it difficult to read body language and understanding social cues. I will admit it's much better as I learned to read body language and social cues as I got older. That's not to say I haven't had any lady friends, just that I never got comfortable enough to ask someone to marry. Maybe it's because i'm too damned independant, I don't know and quite frankly it's not that big a deal anymore. I sometimes think it's nice to be able to go to a movie or out for dinner/lunch with a lady freind and not have to worry about what might happen next.
For sure it would be nice to find someone to share a life with but if it doesn't happen, it won't be the end of the world for me.
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