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Originally Posted by Cali Flames Fan
I was the worst at approaching girls when I was younger. Most of the time I would get upset at the fact that the arrogant/a-hole guys would get lots of attention from girls and I was a nice guy that would remain alone most of my young life. Then it occurred to me, after watching many encounters my friends had with these girls, that most of the young early 20's girls that are out at bars are kind of stupid and immature and I wouldn't want them for anything other than sex anyways. Since I don't care for sex without love (or intimacy, whatever word you fancy) I never did any of those obvious tricks to get a girl to come home with me, but I clearly understood that being an arrogant d-bag worked a lot of the time.
The one time that I had girls flocking over me was after a round of public karaoke. I have a decent singing voice and someone dared me to sing "Just a Gigolo" by David Lee Roth. Apparently that song is like spanish fly to the ladies in this bar and several very good looking girls became instantly attracted to me and wanted to take me home. Never happened again of course.
I'm awful at asking girls out and usually they have to make it painfully obvious that they are interested in me before I get the courage to ask them. I almost have to be sure it won't be a "no" before I do it. Constantly being rejected in junior high and high school really did a number on me.
I've also never had a problem just having a conversation with a random woman, and several ladies ended up being friends of mine because of that trait. But then I got the label of being "gay" from a lot of guys because I'm not an alpha that likes to take women home purely for sex and actually treated them like real people that I could actually be friends with. Sufficed to say I hated my 20's when it came to relationships.
I met my beautiful wife online about 5 years ago and have been blissfully happy ever since (she's literally out of my league). I despised the world of face-to-face romantic interaction with women as it only ever brought me grief.
Good on all those guys who treat it like no big deal. I never managed to successfully approach a girl if my intention was to pick her up. Thank god for the internet.
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Thanks for posting, aside from the marriage thing, this is my stance as well. Can't do the online dating thing either though.
Saves me from making a huge essay like post on the subject when you put it all in a nutshell. cheers.