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Originally Posted by Alberta_Beef
I have cold approached a woman and it was a horrible experience. I am naturally shy and introverted, I get nervous and stumble over my words.
So this one time I had a couple shots in me and decided to approach this girl that was cute, I wasn't acting macho or dickish and I wasn't loaded (just enough to get some liquid courage), all I did was introduce myself and the reaction was the worse I could have imagined at that time. She looked at me and scoffed, turned to her friends and proceeded to insult me by calling me a fat loser who had no chance with her. So I walked away and returned to my friends pretending like nothing happened.
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That's rough, man. One way to look at it is that you have literally had the worst possible experience so it really can only get better from there.
I am also a shy guy. I'm not into women so I don't really have a ton of advice for how to approach a woman. However, I do know what I like in a guy. Ultimately, if you are going to approach anybody...don't play a game or a role or try to impress them with your wit or anything. So many people over-complicate things. Just be yourself and be as natural as you can be. If it works, it works. If it doesn't, it wasn't really meant to be and you can move on knowing that you gave it a shot. You may not end up getting lucky but could end up with a friend if you are genuine and real.
It's a classic cliche but it's really true: nothing ventured, nothing gained. You have to step out of your comfort zone sometimes to give yourself a chance of success.