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Originally Posted by Alberta_Beef
I have cold approached a woman and it was a horrible experience. I am naturally shy and introverted, I get nervous and stumble over my words.
So this one time I had a couple shots in me and decided to approach this girl that was cute, I wasn't acting macho or dickish and I wasn't loaded (just enough to get some liquid courage), all I did was introduce myself and the reaction was the worse I could have imagined at that time. She looked at me and scoffed, turned to her friends and proceeded to insult me by calling me a fat loser who had no chance with her. So I walked away and returned to my friends pretending like nothing happened.
But I'm not going to lie when you put yourself out of your natural element and get burned like that it sticks with you. To this day I haven't cold approached anyone and have met all of my dates online.
If that makes me a loser that should die alone, so be it. It is who I am.
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How old were you? Sometimes a girl gives off a bad vibe as a defensive mechanism cause she gets hit on often. Even if you get a flat out rejection and laughed at, just play it cool, smile and ask a 2nd question to show you are harmless. If they still act bitchy, just smile again and say it was nice meeting you all. Kind of like hitting by a pitch, don't show that it hurts.
I talked to my husband about this and he said you can't just go up to a pretty girl if you're not comfortable talking to anyone. You have to talk to everyone first, startinn with hi. Sitting on the bus and just say hi, even if it a guy or a 70 year old woman. He says these dating seminar guys are BS cause you pay them a bunch of money for one weekend, they take you to the bar with the hottest girls and throw you to the wolves. You may get a girl that night but what happens in the future.
Of course this was never a problem for my husband, he'll talk to anyone. Drives me nuts.