If your looking for some action without any committment there are place to go for that. For me I never spent a lot of time on girls I felt were either not right for me or I couldn't see myself marrying. You could use cost-benefit analysis for that as well. I never made much of an investment in girls who I wasn't really serious about but was never a dick and have always been a nice guy.
We only really have a set period of time to find a partner (if you even want to get married which many don't and there is nothing wrong with that) and I knew what I was looking for so I spent more time evaluating the women I met from that point of view instead of the "gotta get laid" perspective. I have many friends that are girls that I am not close with but just know them because they liked me at one point and we became nothing more than friends. Now that I'm married though I don't talk to an of those girls.
When I met my wife I knew they day I met her that I found who I was looking for and she is now my best friend as well as my wife.
I've found more attractive women are usually not stuck up as some men claim but are approached less as some men are intimidated or feel that they wouldn't have a chance. It's important to find someone your are comfortable with and can talk easly too. Sometimes you just have to fight those initial nerves. Be confident and be yourself.
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