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Originally Posted by Cowboy89
That's funny because I was thinking the same thing. I read a lot of the #yesallwomen tweets and a lot of the tweets about violence against women, harassment, discrimination in the workforce and feeling unsafe were very eye-opening to me and added a whole lot to the discussion.
However I noticed a large contingent of tweets about unwanted attention from men and thought that it's a bit much for women to expect to only get hit on at opportune times, and only by a counter-party that they themselves consider 'wanted.'
Sure some of the tweets were talking about unwanted touching, grinding on them without any consent, and harassing them well after they made it clear the attention was unwanted and clearly that's d-baggery and wrong, but a good lot of them almost resented being approached and talked to (Which sorry ladies isn't harassment, it's part of the basic human condition). How is a guy supposed to know ahead of time if providing attention is 'wanted' if him asking or attempting to 'pick-up' is considered sexist and harassment?
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1) Look at body language. If the girl is looking at you a lot, smiles or smiles back, isn't busying herself with her phone, is turning toward you on the train/whatever--chances are she would welcome some kind of interaction. If she's playing with her phone, avoiding your eyes, slouching away from you, etc--she doesn't want to be bothered. Normally it's pretty easy to tell if someone is open to conversation or not with a quick glimpse of a few clues.
2) If a guy says hello, and gets only one word answers from the woman, realizes she isn't interested, and he simply wishes her a good day and backs off? That isn't harassment. If a guy persists when a woman has made it clear that she's not really interested? That's harassment. Disinterest is not an invitation to just change up your approach and be more persistent.
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Originally Posted by Hockeyguy15
Could be a single dad.
Regardless if you are attached or not, women love babies and flock to them.
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I for one am completely the opposite. Dogs/cats/cute animals sure, but babies will have me running the other way. A guy with kids is my main dealbreaker when it comes to dating. No way, no how.