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pylon · 04-23-2014, 08:56 PM

I haven't really read through this thread, but based on what is considered child abuse... every single one of my friends, myself included would have been considered 'abused'. I was grabbed by the throat and spanked with a length of garden hose by our neighbor for making fun of his mentally disabled daughter and throwing dirt clods at her when I was 9. And when he brought me home, my dad thanked him, and gave me more. It was just different times.

We were all spanked, my old man hit me in the face... hard quite a few times for mouthing off my mother or elders, and motivating children wasn't the same then. Parents didn't tell you what a special little boy you were, they told it more like it is, and it wasn't sugar coated. If you were being an a-hole, they called you an a-hole. If you were a loser at school, you were told you are a loser at school headed for a lifelong career at the local Esso station.

I am not saying one way is better than the other, but the current definitions of child abuse, I am assuming a lot more than 30% of people that grew up anywhere from the beginning of time up until the mid 90's, would have a case to claim they suffered it.

As weird as it sounds, having a dad that was a believer in corporal style punishment, probably saved me from a life of crime and a fixed address in Loserville. At around 13 or 14 it finally clicked, and I finally started thinking about consequences to my actions. And stopped myself from doing bad things, knowing I would have to answer to him. I was a really bad kid, borderline evil, and that was the type of upbringing I likely needed. That, or military school. Without it, I know I would not be where I am today, that's for sure.

04-23-2014, 08:56 PM	#47
pylon Lifetime Suspension Join Date: Jul 2007 Exp:	I haven't really read through this thread, but based on what is considered child abuse... every single one of my friends, myself included would have been considered 'abused'. I was grabbed by the throat and spanked with a length of garden hose by our neighbor for making fun of his mentally disabled daughter and throwing dirt clods at her when I was 9. And when he brought me home, my dad thanked him, and gave me more. It was just different times. We were all spanked, my old man hit me in the face... hard quite a few times for mouthing off my mother or elders, and motivating children wasn't the same then. Parents didn't tell you what a special little boy you were, they told it more like it is, and it wasn't sugar coated. If you were being an a-hole, they called you an a-hole. If you were a loser at school, you were told you are a loser at school headed for a lifelong career at the local Esso station. I am not saying one way is better than the other, but the current definitions of child abuse, I am assuming a lot more than 30% of people that grew up anywhere from the beginning of time up until the mid 90's, would have a case to claim they suffered it. As weird as it sounds, having a dad that was a believer in corporal style punishment, probably saved me from a life of crime and a fixed address in Loserville. At around 13 or 14 it finally clicked, and I finally started thinking about consequences to my actions. And stopped myself from doing bad things, knowing I would have to answer to him. I was a really bad kid, borderline evil, and that was the type of upbringing I likely needed. That, or military school. Without it, I know I would not be where I am today, that's for sure.