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Originally Posted by habernac
Don't know. We've evolved maybe. Hitting hurts. I can explain to my kids what they've done wrong and revoke privileges, etc. I don't see any reason for there to be a physical punishment.
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I find it interesting in how you were raised affects how you raise your kids. Many people seem to think violence begets violence, but I am not always sure that is the case.
I am pretty sure I wasn't abused, but my Dad was really tough on me when I was a kid. I won't go into details but I am sure it crossed the line a few times, but wasn't systemic by any means. Then again, some people on here probably had it the same and feel that it is ok for a parent to be like that sometimes.
The one reason why I refrain from hitting my kids, is just that. I don't want them to have the same adult relationship with me, that I have with my Dad. He super mellow now and you could never tell he could be like how he was. However, my relationship with him always has this uneasiness to it. Just always infused with an undertone of anger. Maybe that is normal, who knows, but I don't like it.
So I look at my son and I do have urges to hit him sometimes, as every parent has with their kids. However, I do find myself consciously restraining myself, as I don't want him to have that fear that I had. Then I start to think if I should be more physical (like grab him) to show him who's boss. Maybe then he would take me more seriously.
I dunno, I just know hitting your kids (spanking or whatever) is a fine line, and I think my history and fear of crossing it and the consequences has me playing it safe. So he gets the corner for a time out, and I guess I will just play it safe for now, and take my rage out like many parents these days..by drinking
