Yeah, the thread isn't here to pressure anyone, as you mentioned, what can a person say? Why would we feel our words would make any difference or help at all?
I just felt there was a need because of the arguing in the other thread and the calls for 'respect' of the situation. The condolences that were in there were getting buried and some felt that was inappropriate.
This way we can keep the discussion away from the condolences and memorials. As the days pass I'm sure there will be more memorials online, or stories people will want to tell. There is no rush or no pressure here, just use it how you feel is best or helps you the most.
EDIT: To add, a statement from the Rathwell Family including funeral information.
http://newsroom.calgary.ca/news/stat...athwell-family