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Originally Posted by zamler
This type of thinking is exactly why people like this woman do selfish things. I respect your take on this and in some ways agree with you. But not everyone does, and we need to respect that. Someone might come by and see dog crap on the grave of someone dear that recently passed, and that could indeed make them feel ever worse.
And to those that say well, holy over reaction. I don't see that, it's when people come along and say meh no big deal who cares. See above.
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I do get the point about not everyone feeling that way, I have mentioned that several times. I have said that while I find it logically silly, I respect that many do not, and so behave appropriately. I just wish we'd move in a direction where more of us do see how silly it is. But yeah if my mom saw it on my grandmothers grave I know it would bug her, so yeah I do get that, and I did think about that.
I guess it's a good point about selfishness. It generally comes when people don't think, and don't care. I guess not caring is the essence of selfishness, so that's a bit redundant, but you know what I mean. But I can't control those people, I can only control me, and I do think. I wouldn't do a thing like this, even feeling how I feel.
I guess my point is, in the grand scheme of things, it's a small deal, and rooted in silliness and superstition anyway. So can we just dial it back? I said it was dumb, and disrespectful considering social norms. But let's not act like it's a massive crime.
And I guess graveyards just bug me, on a few different levels. I actually quite like them, esthetically. They are peaceful, and usually filled with nature. I like to slow down and think or meditate. I don't mind the thought of death, in fact I was kinda gothy in my late teens early adult years.
But in the end, it's a very silly human way to hang on to immortality, filled with ego and false pride, both from the living and the dead. It's also a horrible waste of space and resources on an earth that has almost no room left. Lastly, it makes no sense. We dig up a 1000 year grave and it's an archeological wonder, but we walk over one now and it's bad manners? Wouldn't an older one be even more sacred? And what about all the unmarked graves throughout history that we don't know about. What makes it more important because you can put a fancy stone on it? (Money)