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Originally Posted by Tron_fdc
From a 3rd party standpoint (my wife has a 6yr old) 99.999% of the problems you have can be easily avoided if you (the dad) make a serious attempt at being amicable.
Most women are incredibly emotional and protective of their kids. As soon as my wife gets any indication that her ex is trying to bully her or tell her what to do, she shuts down and goes full bizatch. As a guy I can understand how tempting it is to fight the fight like it's a big business negotiation, but you're probably dealing with a big ball of emotion on the other end, so put the kid gloves on and be VERY careful how you communicate. My wife will quite gladly work outside of the custody agreement and give all kinds of extra time when she can, but if something breaks down in their communication (her and her ex) she becomes a lot less willing to work with him.
As far as visitation, we do every other weekend, the odd weeknight as the schedule allows, and the Christmas holidays alternate year by year. Pretty standard I guess. The dad is given all the activity schedules (hockey, soccer), and is invited to all the events (birthday parties, Christmas concerts, etc etc).
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That's the problem I have.....women then use the child as leverage which is the worst thing possible. Exs hate each other and from experience we all know that once women get on your bad side they are a lot more cutthroat then men.