Right now I have my son for 2 - 4 days every other week-end. He's just about 5. That's been the case for the first two and a half years of the split. We have shared custody but I pay her full custody money. My lawyer advised me to never give up the shared custody portion that we signed off on right at the beginning of the split as it is hard to get it later. I am a big believer that at a young age a child needs to be with there mom more than there father. I try my best with my son, but I am no mom I do realize that. I also have a different situation, I have zero family out here and get zero support when I have my son. Makes it difficult some days. He's getting easier though as he grows up I will say that. She on the other hand has an army of family here to help her out as required. I am hoping that as my son gets older we can slowly transition him to a one week on, one week off arrangement. Things are still being ironed out between the lawyers and a DRO meeting is on the horizon. I'll keep you posted.
I only have one issue with child support payments.....I wish we were allowed to see how that money is being spent. I've been told as long as he has clothes, he's fed, he's healthy, then I can never question where some of that money goes. I'm no dummy I can tell some of my money goes towards paying for my exs and her boyfriends vacations.
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