Just because you have nothing to do with a family member doesn't mean that you don't love them.
If they're causing that kind of drama and mental stress then you have to at least for now remove them from your life.
I went for a couple of years without talking to one of my sisters because I didn't like how she treated me or my parents.
I went for years without talking to my dad and basically ignoring him.
My dad dropped his brothers about 50 years ago and was better for it.
Believe it or not the romantic picture of working hard to keep family together or fixing family members is a falicy, the members of your family are people with flaws and personalities and sometimes they just don't fit with your life, there's no hard and fast rule that you have to carry on the relationship even though its singularly one sided and from what it sounds like bad for you and with little to no benefit.
Simply thank them for their feedback and their interaction into the situation with your ex, then tell them not to call, write, try to visit because you have to do what's best for you. Then get up and walk away, hopefully with some cool theme music (I recocommend the theme from the old incredibly Hulk T.V. show)
If they want to repair things with you, then they have to make the effort first and not you.
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