[dissentowner]

I am debating about walking away from my sister and brother in laws life and wanted a sound board to see if I am just being stupid or if I have justified reasons for doing so. So background story, I was married in 2000 to a woman and we had a son together. Fast forward to summer 2005 and I surprised my wife with a trip to New Orleans. While down there she went off and cheated on me with some guy. I was devasted and when we got home she wanted to work through it but I was not sure. After a few weeks I relented but then shortly after she started being mean to me all the time and started sleeping with a male friend of hers. Again, I was devasted and was basically parenting on my own as she was never home. I guess the friend decided she was not worth the hassle because he booted her to the curb. She told me she was going to her mothers in Winnipeg for a few weeks to sort out her feelings and her life. While there she met a guy from Australia online and flew there to be with him. She never said goodbye to her son and it messed him up pretty bad. It also messed me up pretty bad. I filed for divorce and I had to sell all my assets and give her half. At the time my brother in law and my sister were looking for a house so I sold them mine for $50,000 less than market value on the condition that I could rent the basement for a while so I could get my crap together and find my own place. To be honest I was severely depressed and did not want to be on my own. Now my sister and my ex wife had always been close and they still kept in touch, that struck a nerve but I let it go, I mean just because this woman destroyed her younger brother and his son's life does not mean that friendship has to end right? My son ended up living with my parents because I was too messed up to take care of him, most days I just wanted to lay in bed. I lost my job and had to go on assistance which I gave to my sister for rent. I had hit rock bottom...or so I thought. Fast forward six months and I am starting to function, spending most of my time at my parents visiting with my son, trying to help a five year old make sense of how his world became so different so fast. That was when my brother in law told me I had a month to get out. The reason? My ex and her new boyfriend were coming to town to see my son and to visit with them and they told them they could stay with them for that week in the basement. Of course I was pretty hurt and pissed off and it drove a huge wedge between myself and my sister and brother in law. They knew what I had been through, how in the hell could they do this to me??? I moved in with a friend and the ex came and went and over time I talked to my sister and brother in law again but it was never the same. I felt betrayed, hell, I still do. Fast forward to 2011 and my sister and my brother in law went to Las Vegas to be in the wedding party of my ex and her new husband. Again, I was pissed but it did not directly affect me so again I let it slide. Family is supposed to be special right? You only have one sister right? So this week my ex and her husband are in town to visit my oldest again and my sister and my brother in law and are staying with them of course. My brother in law and sometimes my sister meet me every week for coffee for an hour to stay in touch because we all lead busy lives, I have another family now and a good career but not a lot of time but I try and make it because its family right? So my brother in law sends me a message saying coffee is a no go because they have my ex and her husband are there and something in me snapped. They can't take an hour of their time this week to meet with me because the woman who ruined my life and her dork Aussie husband are there? Am I being too sensitive about this CP? At this point I just want to give them the finger and walk away, if the roles were reversed I would never act like this toward my sister or brother in law, a guy who was my best friend for years before he ended up with my sister. Is it just me? Sorry for this rant, just wanted a neutral opinion on this. My fiance thinks I should never talk to them again.