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The number one reason so many relationships come to an end is not because one spouse cheats, one partner is abusive or overly jealous, or not even because one individual is disappointed with the other's behavior. Rather, it's because of the destructive behavior rooted in insecurity .

If one's self-doubt is the root of so many problems within a relationship, then why is it that most people close their eyes to it? The fact of the matter is that most people don't simply choose to ignore it; they just don't recognize that their feelings of insecurity cause their irrational behavior. Instead, they focus their attention on the behavior rather than the emotion driving the behavior.

For example, you might think that your girlfriend acts selfishly when she forbids you from attending your friend's birthday party, but in reality, she has nothing against your friends — she's just afraid that you might meet another woman.

Instead of addressing the problem right away, she'll ultimately assume the worst, refuse to communicate about the issue, and will choose to remain silent rather than resolve any issues regarding her insecurity. Problem is, by the time she decides to start talking, it'll be too late and chances are one of you will detonate in the other's face. And before you know it, you'll find yourself in a very unhealthy relationship.

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