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Originally Posted by Rathji
Kinsey's research indicated that all people fall in a scale from straight to gay. Very few people were at the extremes.
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So much really depends on outside influences and culture when it comes to 'labeling.'
In Southern Missouri, a guy is gay if he puts gel in his hair. In Southern Missouri, a woman who wears plaid shirts and has a mullet might be the town's beauty queen, but in Overland Park KS, some might label her as 'butch' or gay.
Nature vs nurture, societal preconceptions, etc. all contribute to labeling, but gay vs straight is very subjective.
My point- the therapist that says she is 'right'- do you know this for sure? She is telling you her therapist is saying that she is 100% correct to reinforce her insecurities? I don't know of any licensed therapist who would have any sort of clientele by being so biased and not even meeting the other party involved. My guess is that's BS, and she is just reinforcing her insecurities.
If you really like her, make a compromise. Tell her you'll stop watching porn alone as long as she starts to watch with you, or even take her to an adult shop and get her a BOB- she might need to relax a bit.