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Rathji · 11-20-2013, 09:23 AM

No need to get rid of her over this, but I would sit her down and tell her how you feel.

I had a similar issue with Mrs Rathji, although no Katy Perry or porn related, shortly after we got married, where she was upset about the time I spent with friends when I was in school. Her reasoning was that if I had to spend hours doing homework in the evenings, missing time with kids and her, that it seemed excessive to also have a night a week where I would go play games with my friends.

I talked with her, and she quickly realized that the release of going and playing a game with friends for a few hours was important in terms of me being able to function with the rest of my time being dedicated to Work/School/Home.

It's a lot more complex with porn (and related materials), but the idea is the same. If it is something that is important to you, then she will need to realize that she has to either accept it or end the relationship. As a friend of my wife said, shortly after we got married, "I don't care where he pumps up the tire, as long as he comes home to ride the bike"

11-20-2013, 09:23 AM	#31
Rathji Franchise Player Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Supporting Urban Sprawl Exp:	No need to get rid of her over this, but I would sit her down and tell her how you feel. I had a similar issue with Mrs Rathji, although no Katy Perry or porn related, shortly after we got married, where she was upset about the time I spent with friends when I was in school. Her reasoning was that if I had to spend hours doing homework in the evenings, missing time with kids and her, that it seemed excessive to also have a night a week where I would go play games with my friends. I talked with her, and she quickly realized that the release of going and playing a game with friends for a few hours was important in terms of me being able to function with the rest of my time being dedicated to Work/School/Home. It's a lot more complex with porn (and related materials), but the idea is the same. If it is something that is important to you, then she will need to realize that she has to either accept it or end the relationship. As a friend of my wife said, shortly after we got married, "I don't care where he pumps up the tire, as long as he comes home to ride the bike" __________________ "Wake up, Luigi! The only time plumbers sleep on the job is when we're working by the hour."