I like how the doctor had to include "things like drinking beer" but threw in "but also try events like team sports!" to try and make himself look legitimate. The study is obviously BS, but you can't tell me that, as social creatures, it is a bad idea for men to go and interact like men every once and a while.
It's important to keep our social skills and emotional IQ sharp, need to practice the ability of building community, male bonds, respect, honour - to have a tribe and also have a place in that tribe.
Not being able to have and maintain friendships in an unbecoming and dangerous trait whether make or female, married or single. We rely on other people when times get yards, and not having those bonds in your life leave you in a risky position. It also feels good to be able to provide for your own friends when they need it.
It would be interesting to see a real study on this. How partaking in the practice would effect brain health, social IQ, testosterone levels, overall health and relationship qualities in other aspects of a man's life.
As for this marriage debate... I think it wise to take care of yourself, so you can take care of your partner and your family. Marriage is a give and take, not a 50/50 - you start keeping score and that's when resentment starts, and that's what kills relationships. Spend time with your friends when you need to, but budget the rest of your time like a responsible and loving man. Don't be a workaholic, don't neglect family time, don't neglect time with your partner, don't neglect self improvement, don't neglect your community, don't forget to surprise the people in your life sometimes - be generous and thoughtful, and equitable to all of those important to you. You lose what you don't tend to properly.
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